The first attempt often fails. Furthermore, people feel an anguished panic of criticism. And above all to make a mistake in front of others.
For that reason, many first attempts never even happen. Second attempts are even rarer. And the third, almost non-existent. They tend to forget that «the third time lucky».
If you conform, you shrink. Life stagnates and stops or, at least, flows in fits and starts.
Sometimes you think that your time will never come, but one day, one hour, one minute later, everything is finally resolved. It would be unfortunate to abandon the race at the finish line. If you stop before you get there, you'll never know what awaits you on the other side. ¡And just for not having taken a few more steps!
Each goal has its own timetable. Some take more time and others less. It may take time, but even if it comes after a hundred attempts, you get much more than you would if you gave up after the first refusal. Many victories owe their success to the umpteenth attempt.
Avoid taking a «No» as something personal and do not make enemies when you receive a refusal. Everyone has the right to make their own decisions, even if they go against your plans. Even if you believe that the person who tells you «No» he's wrong, don't get mad. Your soul is too big for such a small wordñto immobilize you
And on the other hand, if you think not, it is not; even before asking the question. The answer is in your hand.
There is a certain class of people who will be in charge of trying to dynamite any foreign idea with the possibility of prospering. His censorship and criticism are a reflection of his own failures. Basically, they are the same people who wait sitting at the door of their house, waiting for a stroke of luck that never comes; some of them only get up from their chairs to disrupt the neighbor's effort.
Sometimes, you experience certain losses to go on to gain immediately. It's true: we all lose at some point and go through certain ups and downs. Who feels despondent because he lost a love, is rejecting new opportunities to love and be loved; and the same goes for money. You let go of something to immediately make room for the new.
I know you are used to withholding and demanding. However, it is necessary to learn to let go and let go. That doesn't mean being left with nothing; letting go is liberating but it is also liberating. Sometimes, it is things that possess us, and not the other way around, as it might seem. Life is not stagnant: it is a flow, and that is what makes it interesting.
I would like you to see things differently. First of all, the experience of losing don't make you small.ñece; it makes you bigger. Second, it doesn't subtract; but it adds -and even, sometimes, multiplies-. And third, that step back doesn't slow you down; actually, it gives you momentum and catapults you to infinity.
Wherever you are and whatever happens, you are moving forward.
Surely throughout your existence you had to face the inevitable losses that are part of life itself. Later, you discovered that your loss gave way to the unexpected. ¡How many times something new came to you, making its way through your losses and your difficulties! There is an explanation: the Universe is operating, it lends you a hand and starts working for you.
When you lose, don't forget the lesson.
Interpret it this way: empty hands are found fullof what they are about to receive. If those hands had been holding on to who knows what, they wouldn't be able to hold anything new. In life there are chains of coincidences linking losses with opportunities.
Sometimes the gain is subtle and unexpected. It is true that losses are inevitable, but no matter how long the sad night is, each day dawns anew.
And do not allow yourself to live with losses more than is essential. Once you have extracted the juice from its enseñgo on, follow squeezingloss leads to nothing. Sorry, neither. The pattern of «poor me» it is a farce of behavior that provides a very poor performance.
In some page of this manual, you have read that happiness has nothing to do with what you win or lose, but with your attitude in both situations. Joy and sadness are the release of your inner representations, the way you value your experiences. It's not about how much you lost, but how you valued it then and how you remember it now.
Smile when you remember your little onesñThe great disasters of the past. That will dissolve the «emotional molecules» of the trauma because the subconscious will file the memory again, only this time it will associate a smile.
I want you to know that no loss is ever really final.
I know that this statement contradicts the schemes that you have used up to now, but now is the time to make some changes. But ¿Why did you start reading this manual?