Human relationships can be established through the ego or the Spirit, but it is usually done through both. The ideal is to relate only to the Being That We Are, the Spirit, because We Are All One. But many relate only through their ego. You can see them all day on TV, on the street, in the movies, in literature... The ego is a seeker of experiences and will always try to drag you down new paths in search of fame, money, sex, power, luxuries, and all kinds of worldly experiences. But even if you get all of this, you will never find peace outside of YOURSELF, outside of your Spirit. Meditation is a path to your Spirit, because it consists of observing and silencing the voice of the ego that always speaks in your head. With his endless chatter he entertains you and keeps away from his control over you. But meditation disarms it, especially if you recognize the existence of the ego in you.
The ego has many faces, many disguises because it is a trickster. He has duped you for many years, because he is in your mind and knows everything you know, but you did not know him. Until today. He is your inner demon, who climbs on your shoulder and advises you using judgments and fear so that you follow him in his separatist approaches with respect to your brothers. Its existence gave rise to the fable of the expulsion from Paradise. No kidding, we missed heaven by choosing to follow the ego.
To relate well is basic identify your ego and gradually and definitively abandon it. He disguises himself as your defender, caretaker and protector in front of others, but he is the opposite. He is a harsh judge who will condemn you along with the others, whom he will use to unload his guilt as if they were scapegoats. “the others are bad“, he tells you, but it is another lie of your ego that you have believed until now. Do not believe more in their summary judgments. We are all One and they are You, if you condemn them you will condemn yourself. If you forgive them, you will obtain the freedom of Spirit that you yearn for and seek without knowing it in the endless paradises that your ego will offer you. Until you lose all your time in the world and need to return to it to fix and compose what you left tied badly (they call it karma).
The ego will contaminate ALL the relationships you establish, no matter how good they are, especially if you don't know how to identify it in yourself. Watch it 24 hours. When he appears to give you his advice or judgments about others, ignore it and ignore him. Remember that you should never judge anyone, or you will be giving strength to your ego and it will give you its medicine: the pain. Whenever you feel bad in your relationships it is because you have thought badly of others and have been caught by your ego. Love always gives well-being and happiness. Check that your ego will try to shift its blame onto others, to justify your suffering. But that will end when you discover it and when you dis-identify with it. Watch it endlessly and then laugh at your ego and its suggestions.