Easy or difficult?
One leads to the other. The philosopher Goethe knew this and wrote: ··Everything is difficult before it is easy”.
Devoting yourself to what speaks to your heart is not synonymous with an easy life. It is precisely the difficulty that will generate personal alchemy. Following the path of the heart does not guarantee an easy life, but surviving in what is not loved will not either.
The belief that life should be easy is loose. Very lazy. Most ads that promise immediate results are intended for lazy minds. Lazy advertising is designed for lazy mindsets and to sell them what they don't need. Our culture seems to have forgotten effort as a value and focuses on free and immediate satisfaction. We see it everywhere.
The weak love towards oneself—indulging oneself—does not lead to anything. But strong love—disciplined—is stronger than any difficulty. What follows is the "missing step" in unrealistic methods of personal fulfillment:
Self-discipline is the highest expression of self-esteem.
People who don't get what they want are not willing to pay the price to get it. It is that simple and that hard. And much less to pay in advance. What I have found is that advance payments are very powerful (they are pure investment): they create an expansive vibrational field that clears the path of difficulties. If the price is right, pay it now; or later you will pay for a higher amount.
For me, true self-esteem is "giving up a relationship with myself." I've spent a lot of time staring at my belly button. Now, instead of that, I prefer to focus on life and my contribution. No one is as happy as someone who forgets himself and stops taking himself too seriously.
In my seminars I usually hear comments about: the easy and the difficult, the possible and the impossible, theory and reality. I always reply that those distinctions are an illusion. There is not a life in which to theorize and another in which to practice… They are the same! If what is known is not put into practice, in reality, nothing is known. The average person already knows the truth, by hearsay, but has not yet decided to live it.
In my vocabulary I have excluded two losing words: easy Y hard. Right now, I even feel uncomfortable writing them, but I do so with the noble intention of caricaturing them.
If you ask me what my experience is, I will tell you that nothing worthwhile is at the end of a path of roses – on the other hand, it is not something that worries me. I prefer not to predict either ease or difficulty. To be exact, there will be very “difficult” moments and other very easy ones.” That's life: it's one thing, it's the other and it's both at the same time.
In short: the choice of what is easy and comfortable leads to a difficult life in the long run. Easy roads lead nowhere; however, hard roads lead far.
What follows was not written by me, Seneca did: “It is not because things are difficult that we dare to do them, it is precisely because we do not dare that they become difficult”. And another quote, for me, even more forceful: "What you have never done can not be difficult."
And a simple rule: “The days that are not occupied in what you love are sad, they pass but they are not lived, and they are never remembered with a smile”. Sooner or later, there comes a day when you feel like it's time to express your greatness. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about if you ask yourself from time to time the following question: How should my life be, so that I feel really proud of myself?, you will connect with something really big.
You will make mistakes, like everyone else
To what extent are you willing to make mistakes? It is likely that during the process that leads you to the top you will make mistakes, doubt, be criticized or misunderstood, and feel vulnerable. It is completely normal and part of the process. Mistakes make your armor fall, expand your limits, They are your spiritual practice! Turning all that precarious stuff into something nutritious is the heart of the matter.
You are not perfect, and it is also true that no one will know the day of perfection in life. How democratic is imperfection! No one is perfect—or we are all imperfect. Psychology is clear about it and qualifies the need for perfection as a “transient mental disorder”.
Do you have many problems? There is only one remedy: stop having them. Spot. Whenever I repeat it to my clients, I break all their schemes about "The art of bookkeeping and conservation of problems". Seriously, if you don't want them, get rid of them by seeing them for what they are, an unfocused perception of reality.
If you step aside and the problem “doesn't survive” without you, then—and I'm sorry to say—your perception is the problem. You are part of it.
To check my position on a problem I have six questions:
1. When does the problem not occur?
2. When is the problem worse?
3. When is the problem relieved?
4. What or who makes him older?
5. When and how did I fix it before?
6. Without me, would the problem exist?
In life, what you want is sometimes achieved at first and sometimes not; and in both cases, nothing of greater importance almost ever happens. I myself have reaped more “undesired results” than I care to admit. They are normal when acting. They are part of the lot.
Aphorism: No one is as wrong as someone who never tries.
Be smart. After all, in a few years, is anyone going to remember today's little problems and mistakes? Of course not! In that case, you shouldn't worry now either, don't you think?
There is nothing to fear, except fear itself. Boldness and daring have power. And once you act from the heart, something magical happens. Everything around him is contagious and speaks in his own language. I have a challenge for you: follow the dictates of your heart (its wisdom comes from eternity and its dreams are very old).