What is the level at which I would feel proud?
Transcend your limits
Vincent van Gogh faced his first attempt at a masterpiece, The potato eaters, after making the following commitment: “I have to paint what I am not yet capable of in order to learn how to do it”. The kind of thinking that has the audacity of total absence of limitations. This is the level to which I would like to lead you during this journey.
Basic idea: a limit is the symptom of a fear, and a fear is a distorted belief in reality.
It turns out that what you believe in is what becomes your next reality.
But how to get rid of a limitation? Ignoring her! Boring her to death. I am completely serious, do not pay any attention if someone says that this or that cannot be done. Set a boundary for a child and he will keep it for the rest of his life. Limits survive in minds that accept limits. Athletes lower their marks because they don't believe in limits. Columbus discovered a continent because he ignored limits.
After a seminar someone asked me: How can I identify the limits? “Examine your beliefs,” I replied, “and you will know the limits of your life. Your unwritten rules establish at each moment what is possible and what is not. You are free to believe what you want and based on your freedom, you can also change your rules.” After a few months, he wrote to me: he had started a promising business. Happy ending.
I like to remember that there are no impossible problems but impossible mentalities, beyond that, the problem simply does not exist. It's what I call being bigger than the biggest problem. Grow above the problem to leave it behind. Actually, it's your size—and not the size of the problem—that counts!
It is time to ask yourself if you want to play a stronger game for which you will have to transcend your glass ceilings. Are you interested? This text aims to bring to the surface all your greatness. I know that very few people will have really encouraged you to “be great”, but my job is to help you do just that.
I've selected ten good questions to unleash the best version of you. I invite you to answer them in writing
1. What is the greatest result you can imagine?
2. At what level would success be final?
3. How far do you want to go?
4. Where would you be proud of yourself?
5. What's stopping you?
6. What do you think about small?
7. What are you asking for? And what is not?
8. What do you not reach your maximum?
9. Where can you extend your effort to achieve double?
10. Who will you become when you make it happen?
Expand your game, raise your expectations, point to something bigger. Please, this is an issue that should not be kept in the museum of unfulfilled dreams. Then to be great for the rest of your life. I believe, without fear of being wrong, that you have not yet dreamed your biggest dreams. All people who have used the word "impossible" have, sooner or later, been proven wrong.
Let's go one step further. Have you thought what would be a "scandal result"? envision it as big as you can and revolve your days around that vision. If you can imagine a level of achievement where there is no longer a problem, the following tasks will unleash the genius within you:
1. Dust off an underused skill.
2. Try a new strategy.
2. Transcend or surpass your worst difficulty forever.
Get double. Elevate your dream to its maximum size. For example, you can: “earn twice as much”, “enjoy twice as much”, “have twice as much energy”, “get twice as much free time”… At what level would you feel proud of yourself?
My suggestion: expand the dream, make it a complete experience. You'll know the size of your dream is adequate if imagining it takes your breath away.
Impatience, a symptom of distrust
I admit there was a time when I thought impatience was part of my character. Or my genes. Or my astrological chart. It was not until very late, when I learned that impatience means a severe lack of confidence! In my teenage days, I was impatient with almost everything. I remember that I needed to see things as soon as possible, because if I didn't see them, I couldn't believe in them. Years later I discovered that impatience is the desire to reach the result without wanting to go through the necessary process. It's that simple.
Over time, I have learned to temper my impatience; that is, to dissolve my mistrust. In fact, now, the more confidence I show, the faster everything in my life happens. I like to believe that if I were able to generate absolute trust, one hundred percent, my wishes would be fulfilled instantly! For the moment, and with the present degree of understanding, I must accept a certain time between the formulation of a wish and its fulfillment.
I have verified that the time that things take to happen is always adequate, regardless of the demands of our agenda.
And I even understood why certain things don't happen. With the perspective of time, how many times have I been glad that something did not happen!
– What is more important direction or speed?
– The direction. But how long will it take to get there?
– The necessary. Not a second more, not a second less, because outside of that precise moment the achievement is not possible! Everything in life has its moment.
The concept of "perfect timing" may seem like a somewhat strange notion. None of that, this is state-of-the-art physics. That a second doesn't matter? Well yes it does. In the subatomic world of elementary particles, it does. A simple infinitesimal difference in time in a quantum event would make matter impossible and also the chemical reactions that give rise to life.
Scientists call it the "fine tuning" in the genesis of the universe. If after the big-bang the rate of expansion of the universe had been a billionth higher or lower than it was, we would not be here today talking about it. Thanks to "fine tuning", the universe is solid and not a mixture of radiation and gas. The material world exists because the elementary particles follow the rhythm of the right moment, not a billionth of a second before and not a billionth of a second after.
Time counts.