On one occasion, during an elegant homecoming party, some women, wanted to meet the wife of the party, they asked her with a certain curiosity:

Does your husband make you happy, does he really make you happy?

The celebrant, who was at that moment, was not by his side, but close enough to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation and slightly raised his posture, as a sign of security, and even puffed out his chest a little, proudly, well, he knew his wife would say yes, since she had never complained during their marriage.

However, to his surprise and the others, the wife responded with a resounding:

– No, it doesn't make me happy.
There was an awkward silence in the room as if everyone present had heard the woman's response.

The husband was petrified. He couldn't believe what his wife was saying, least of all
for him.
To everyone's astonishment, she simply placed her elegant black silk scarf enigmatically on her head and continued:

– No, he doesn't make me happy… I'm happy! The fact that I am happy or not, does not depend on him, but on me.  I am the only person on whom my happiness depends. I determine to be happy in every situation and at every moment of my life, because if my happiness depended on another person, on another thing or circumstance on the face of this earth, I would be in serious trouble.

– Everything that exists in this life changes continuously: The human being, the riches, my body, the climate, the pleasures, etc.
And so I could say an endless list.
Through all my life, I have learned something:
– I decide to be happy and the rest are “experiences or circumstances”, such as helping, understanding, accepting, listening, consoling, and together with my husband I have lived and practiced it many times.
– Happiness will always be based on true forgiveness and love for oneself and others.
– It is not my husband's responsibility to make me happy… He also has his “experiences or circumstances”, I love him and he loves me, despite his circumstances and mine.
– He changes, I change, the environment changes, everything changes; having true love and forgiveness, and observing those changes, (which may or may not be strong, but they exist), we must face them with the love that is in each one of us, if we both love and forgive each other; the changes will only be "experiences or circumstances" that enrich us and that will give us strength, otherwise, we will only have been couples of "step".
– For some, getting a divorce is the only solution; 

Truly loving is difficult, it is giving love and forgiving unconditionally, living, taking the "experiences or circumstances" as they are, facing them together and being happy by conviction.

There are people who say:
– I cannot be happy because I am sick, because I have no money,
  * because it's very hot, because they insulted me,

  * because someone has stopped loving me,

  * because someone did not value me!

But what you don't know is that you can be happy even if you're sick, even if it's hot, whether or not you have money, even if someone has insulted you or someone hasn't loved or valued you.
Being happy is an attitude towards life and each one decides!…

Being happy depends only on you