Perhaps you are thinking like Gloria, the girl who was the nanny of my last two children, she dreamed like many girls, lovers of laziness and comfort. I remember one Sunday afternoon, I asked him what his aspirations were at that moment in his life, to which he replied quite naturally, well, "marry an old man who is rich, who dies soon so I can keep everything and then look for another husband my age”
And he achieve it!
She married an "old gringo" former soldier retired from the Korean War. She went to live with him, but the pleasure did not last long, because she soon realized her mistake, "the old man" died of lung cancer and she had to return home, worse than how she left, because the house where they lived was rented and the only thing that "the rich old man" had, which was his pension, they gave it to his youngest son who continued to live in the United States and the dreams of wealth, of course... They vanished! She only worked as a maid and improvised nurse 24 hours a day… and without pay for more than five years.
Some time has passed, a few months after the event, we met and greeted each other happily but, at the same time, he took the opportunity to tell me that I had "salted him" because I warned him that he was making a bad decision.
Well, just like Gloria, there are many human beings who are not capable of accepting their mistakes, they look for culprits at any cost, they anxiously look for someone to blame for their problems, their bad decisions, or rather, put the responsibility off them. , that's why they live a mediocre life full of fears... they are like empty wells full of vermin, living in the midst of frustration, loneliness and rejection of themselves and others.
To you who are reading me, what happened to Gloria does not happen to you, trust yourself and all those resources that God gave you, such as your intelligence and... that body you have, which is a beautiful work of human engineering that only God himself could have put in you, Trust you first of all! Because… you are the beginning and the end of yourself.
The foregoing reminds me of a passage from my childhood, when I used to play with my brothers in Don Bernardo's field, it seemed like a magical, fantasy place, it was only fenced by dry branches and scarce stones, poorly arranged by the way, it was very large and in the middle was an adobe hut; near it, a leafy tree that almost covered everything, seemed like a fairytale house, inside everything was abandoned and there was only a rustic stove where he made his food; It was a very lonely and silent place, and that is why my father prohibited us from going to play there, but for us it was an adventure, because the neighbors said that in that place, right where the tree was, there was a hidden treasure, which was the estate of that lonely old man, once a very rich merchant.
I remember that we would sneak away from my dad, when he went to work, we would go there to play, after of course, finishing homework.
Our goal was to find the treasure, we dug like we were desperate and nothing, days went by and nothing, until one day my brother Pedro came across something, it was a black slab, and… Oh surprise! When we agreed, my father was close to us, we didn't see him coming... the lesson we received was great, that we didn't feel like going back to look for the treasure.
Years passed… today as an adult, every time I pass by, I remember with nostalgia that place, where I enjoyed and shared with my younger brothers those fantasies of my childhood.
This is how most of us human beings are, we go through life looking for other people's treasures, living distracted and without realizing the wonderful treasure that we ourselves are.
However, we are not guilty for not feeling valuable, rather we are the summary of all those circumstances that have devalued us and that have made us focus more on our limitations and weaknesses than on the full range of resources and abilities that we possess by nature. .
Let's do an exercise right now:
Give yourself 10 minutes of your time.
1. Take a letter size sheet and make a line in the middle, divide it in two, write a list of all those limitations and weaknesses that have ruined your life.
2. Make another list of all those resources and skills you have, of which you feel proud.
3. At the end, compare and realize how each of your lists makes you feel. See what you discover by comparing them.
Take this time to reinvent yourself and once you have finished, compare and draw your conclusions.